Dear Mouthy Housewives,
I like this guy and he likes me back. He asked me out about a month ago and I said, “When I get to know you better.”
I really want to go out with him, but I’m going away with him and a whole heap of friends for 2 weeks and I think that things might be awkward if we break up before/during the vacation. I also think that if I go out with him all my other friends will judge me.
What do I do?
Hmmmm. From the sound of your letter, I’m guessing that you’re not a 40-year-old woman. Because if you were, you’d sound a lot more sure of yourself and also include many colorful swear words. So, let’s assume you’re 25 or under.
Now, you like this guy and he likes you. That’s Step Number One. But you say you don’t want to date him until you get to know him better, which confuses me. How will you get to know him better if you don’t spend any time together? Do you mean you only want to be around him in large groups? That you want to read his unpublished memoirs? That you plan on a few months of texting emojis to each other? I don’t understand why you wouldn’t at least go out for coffee or bubble tea or whatever it is you millennials enjoy these days. Monster Energy Drinks?
You are, however, wise to not start anything with him before the trip. That’s a good call on your part because the last thing you need is a lover’s quarrel while you’re backpacking through Ohio with a bunch of friends. Maybe use this time to hang out with him a little more, but in casual settings.
That said, I’m curious about the “all of my other friends will judge me” sentence in your letter. Is there something different about him? Is he an ex-con? A real estate agent? A professional clown? Because if you like him and he likes you, who cares what your friends think. Take your time, get to know him casually, then see where it goes. You’ll figure it out on your own.