Welcome to Guest Post Monday! Today’s guest advisor is Rebecca Land Soodak, who I instantly fell in love with when she wrote my most favorite ever Craiglist ad. Rebecca’s debut novel, Henny On the Couch, (Grand Central) will be out Spring 2012. She lives with her husband and four children in New York City. Rebecca’s work can also be found at http://rebeccalandsoodak.blogspot.com/ and http://rebeccalandsoodak.com/. – Marinka
Dear Mouthy Housewives,
We moved into our house a few months ago and didn’t have window treatments right away. I realized this only after I took a shower one night and my husband told me he could see me from outside. Unfortunately, I think (but I’m not sure) our across the street neighbor also saw me taking a shower a few times because he always acts really embarrassed and awkward around me. Should I bring it up or just live with this weirdness between us?
I, too, tend to confront awkward situations head on; however in this case, I encourage you to resist the urge. (And by encourage, I mean beg.) You see, for some people, talking actually makes an uncomfortable situation worse. (And by some people, I mean men.) And if he’s already acting like a nervous teenager, a conversation will only fuel that fire.
But protecting Mr. Man from an awkward exchange is not my only concern. Words are powerful. Mentioning the faux pas could easily transform it into an inside joke. And in my opinion, intimate exchanges belong nowhere near neighbors.
In the meantime though, enjoy the mystery of not knowing whether he saw. (Or if he did-what he thought.) We married folk don’t often get the chance to feel the thrill of the unknown. I say, assume he not only witnessed your show (I mean shower) but he deeply appreciated the opportunity. Then take that titillating notion into your nuptial nirvana where it will serve you (and yours) well.
But back on planet earth-home of block parties and barbecues-behave like the little lady you are. Your hood and hubby will thank you. All you have to do is stand tall. Be proud. And remember, except for these damned clothes, we’re all just a bunch of bare-assed barbarians anyway. There’s really nothing gained in acknowledging it.
Rebecca, Guest TMH