Today one of our favorites mommies, Anymommy, is guest Mouthy Housewifing for us. If you don’t know Stacey, you’re in for a real treat! And if you do know Stacey, you’ve long stopped reading this introduction, and are now enjoying her guest post!
Dear Mouthy Housewives,
I don’t have kids, so I’m turning to you. A close friend recently told me that when I visit her daughter, my goddaughter, and bring her a present, I should bring a small present for her older sister too. (They are 8 and 5). My friend was very uncomfortable telling me this and reassured me that she didn’t think that I should get either girl a gift, but if I decide to give one to my goddaughter, then I should think of her sister, too.
What do you think?
Godmother to the Masses
Dear Godmother to the Masses,
I certainly see your point. It’s not your fault that your friend picked a crappy godmother for her older child. Why should you have to pick up the slack for the stingy godmother? It’s not like you can just wave your wand and turn mice into presents. Besides, that will teach that kid to be born first. We can’t really blame your friend either, she is a victim of these equality for all, socialist times. No one fails! All godmothers are created equal, comrades! She just wants every thing to be fair for her daughters to foster togetherness and discourage sibling rivalry. As a mother of four, I disagree with that philosophy. Things aren’t always fair, sometimes people lose and kids don’t always get equally awesome godmothers. Your friend’s desire to keep things equal for her girls may back fire horribly in ten years when your fifteen-year-old goddaughter is prettier than her sister and her super cute seventeen-year-old boyfriend refuses to take older sister along to the ball. You could tell your friend that you disagree, fundamentally, with her parenting philosophy, because parents LOVE to be told by someone without kids that they are doing it wrong. But, you did call her a “close” friend, I am guessing that you’d like her to continue to speak to you.
In that case, here’s what you should do. Follow your friend’s suggestion and don’t bring a gift at all when you visit. Kids have way too much crap anyway. Trust me on this. There are plenty of occasions for spoiling your goddaughter without ignoring her older sister. Her birthday. Graduation. Marriage. For now, give her the gift of your time.
Stacey, Guest TMH