10 Aug
My Cry Baby is No Baby At All

Dear Mouthy Housewives,

I have an almost 6-year-old and in the last few months he cries about EVERYTHING! I can barely get my response out and he’s crying. I’ve tried ignoring him, time-outs, telling him I won’t talk to him until he speaks normally…. everything! And on top of the crying he’s become so mouthy. I have no patience for him anymore. No matter what I tell him or try, it doesn’t work! Even other people have tried talking to him to get him to listen. What do I do?

Signed,

Soon I’ll Be Crying Too

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Dear Soon I’ll Be Crying Too,

I’ll tell you what definitely won’t work…. screaming into your son’s face, “FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THINGS POSSIBLE, STOP F*CKING CRYING NOW. RIGHT NOW!!!”

It actually makes them cry harder. Or, you know, so I’ve heard.

Now, there are no lack of resources on how to get a baby to stop crying, but there’s a real void when it comes to bigger kids. And I’m assuming that you’d rather not try to swaddle or burp your son. Ultimately, we can’t force someone to stop crying.   Trust me, for months I’ve tried to get my husband to stop sobbing at the One Touch Can Opener commercials on cable television and I’ve never succeeded. He’s an emotional guy.

We all cry for different reasons… when we’re overwhelmed by a situation, scared of something, anxious about a new experience or maybe we’ve downed too many glasses of Merlot. Crying is just an emotional release and maybe your son is going through a tough phase right now.

It’s how you respond that will make all the difference.   When he starts crying, give him a hug, tell him, “I love you very much but if you’re going to keep crying, you will need to do it your room. You’re not in a time-out. You’re welcome to come out when you’ve calmed down.” Do this consistently. First of all, you no longer have to listen to it, which will do great things for your emotional health and well being. And as an added bonus, he’s no longer getting tons of attention for his behavior.   Also, don’t let him drink wine.

As for being mouthy, make sure he knows you’re the boss and discipline him appropriately (time-outs, taking away treats, etc.) when he is disrespectful to you.   You can also let him know that we, The Mouthy Housewives, don’t like anyone ripping off our trademark.

Forever Mouthy,

Kelcey, TMH (Definitely Not A Crier)

12 Responses to “My Cry Baby is No Baby At All”

08.10.11#1

Comment by SarcasticMoo.

“I’ll tell you what definitely won’t work…. screaming into your son’s face, “FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THINGS POSSIBLE, STOP F*CKING CRYING NOW. RIGHT NOW!!!”

It actually makes them cry harder. Or, you know, so I’ve heard.”

Haha Best line! We have all been there some just won’t admit to it. Or they don’t actually have a child and just like to tell you how to raise yours, don’t you just love those people?

08.10.11#2

Comment by Plano Mom.

Or how about “Stop crying now or I’ll give you something to cry about!”

Spot on advice. I tell my son that when you cry, no one can respond to what you want, they can only respond to the crying, so everyone loses.

skrink Reply:

I like this. May I borrow it? 🙂 My daughter is past the crying – we’re now on screaming, at age 9 – but I can see the logic of this appealing to her. If it stops the screaming let me know where to send the check.

Plano Mom Reply:

Oh my kids are 12 and 19, but for screaming, I say that it makes me so angry that I can’t talk about anything – I shut down. Any further talk/screaming is met with “sorry, not interested in discussing this TODAY.”

Plano Mom Reply:

Oh, and I forgot – any screaming day means a time out for Mom – in the tub.

08.10.11#3

Comment by Susan.

Wow, this is exactly what I am experiencing with my 6 year old!! I too have tried it all, and resorted to the “quiet time”. I think it’s actually working…or maybe I have had too much wine and can’t remember.

08.10.11#4

Comment by I'm a big ol' b with a captial B!.

There’s something about 5/6 age that this happens… my daughter went through it not long ago, too. I felt like she was just overwhelmed by what was going through her brain/emotions all at one time. Giving her time to control herself in the comfort of her own room worked well for us, as well.

Fortunately, it’s just a stage and it too will pass!

My one liner that I love, “I brought you into this world and I can take you out!” No, I’ve never said it to my kids…… *shifty eyes*

08.10.11#5

Comment by MangoChutney.

Maybe tell him you’ll put him on the porch with a “FREE” sign around his neck.

08.12.11#6

Comment by Christa.

I love this whole thing, but my favorite part was, “Oh, and don’t let him drink wine.” So random, fun and unexpected!

08.13.11#7

Comment by Poker Chick.

Another thing that also doesn’t work: Crying back. That just makes them cry harder too. It’s a little different with biting.

08.15.11#8

Comment by Karin.

my response is “if you don’t stop crying long enough to hear my answer, the answer will always be ‘no’ but if you can listen to me, maybe we can find a way to say ‘yes’ even if it’s not completely on your terms”

12.15.11#9

Comment by When Will My 5 Year Old Have More Impulse Control Than Naomi Campbell? | The Mouthy Housewives.

[…] Third, be involved and be there. It seems that you have this already, and in spades. And, honestly, this can be the hardest one for some parents. Don’t give up on the positive reinforcement you have started. It’s important to keep in mind, though, that it doesn’t work overnight. I know it’s rough but keep with it and it will get better, I promise. Also, remind yourself you are not alone; all parents will face some type of developmental issue that seems insurmountable. […]

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