Dear Mouthy Housewives,
I currently moved three thousand miles away from my home and I am a stay at home mom now. My issue is I ALWAYS have my 2-year-old daughter with me and I am expecting another baby in September but I don’t have any friends and I don’t even know how to go about making any. Please help me!!!
My 2-year-old is Not a Great Conversationalist
Dear My 2-year-old is Not a Great Conversationalist,
Oh yes. Every gal out there needs some cool ladies they can split a box of rosé with. I mean, talk about the pros and cons of attachment parenting. Your problem is really as old as the dawn of time, whenever that was. I do remember Adam and Eve got in one fierce argument because Eve was complaining incessantly that she had no girl posse and was very lonely.
We professionals in the advice business call your problem, “I Need Some Damn Friends ASAP or My Brain is Going to Explode From Lack of Adult Conversation During the Day.” Lucky for you, we have tons of great ideas. Here is some advice. And some more.
And you are ignoring your golden ticket to life long fabulous friendships. Your daughter!! She provides a natural way to meet people. Make an effort to talk to other moms at the playground and set up playdates with other moms who have toddlers. Sign your daughter up for classes or preschool and start networking! You will have to slog your way through some duds until you find a mom that you really click with (remember dating?) but it’s so worth it.
Unfortunately it doesn’t happen overnight. When I first moved to the suburbs, I used to curl myself up in a ball and watch Sex in the City, pretending that Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte and Samantha were my besties. But eventually I met some really funny, great moms and I no longer have to pretend that TV characters are my friends. Well, I still do that but definitely not as much.
So hang in there. Your mom friends are out there!