Dear Mouthy Housewives,
I am getting married in June and my fiancÃ© told me that his parents would like me to call them “mom and dad.” I’m not happy about this but I don’t want to offend them.
How Many Parents Do I Need?
Dear How Many Parents Do I Need,
I think every family is different. For example, some families kiss on the cheek. Others kiss on the lips. And still others make out with their dogs. The point is each family has its own comfort zone. So you have to determine what feels right for you.
It’s very sweet that your in-laws now think of themselves as your mom and dad. But I totally understand if you’re not ready for this. Heck, sometimes I call my own parents Susie and Tom because I’m not always 100% convinced they are actually related to me.
In my opinion, the words “mom” and “dad” are really a special honor. I mean, these are supposed to be the people who stayed up with you all night when you were vomiting all over your bedroom, who held your hand on the first day of Kindergarten and who put up with you through the teenage years when you sported that asymmetrical haircut and a ridiculous attitude. They earned the right to be called mom and dad.
Tell your fiancÃ© that you’re not quite ready to refer to his parents this way. You shouldn’t be pressured into this or feel like you’re offending anyone. And when you’re ready, you can casually work it into conversation like, “Hey, mom and dad, we could really use some money for a down payment on a new house.” Something low key like that.
And if you’re never ready, that’s OK too.
Kelcey (Not your mom or dad), TMH