Dear Mouthy Housewives,
My husband is addicted to sex. No matter what I do, he wants sex all the time. It’s so bad that I pretend I’m asleep when he reaches over to feel my body or I sleep in the guest room to avoid him. I make him angry at me so he won’t want to have sex but nothing is working anymore. He gets mad when I tell him no or when I act like I don’t hear him.
I feel trapped in my own home. I don’t even like my body anymore because of his addiction. It’s gotten so out of control that I’m close to just filing for a divorce. I need advice because I do love him but I’m just so tired of the sex.
Get Off Me Hubby
Dear Get Off Me Hubby,
Tell David Duchovny or Tiger Woods or whoever the hell you are married to to give you some peace for gosh sakes. How is a nice lady like yourself supposed to enjoy hours of television viewing each night if you’ve got some big hairy ape constantly groping you. The Bachelor needs some attention too.
Please know that you are not alone. Other women out there are dealing with this. I know that the American Psychiatric Association has yet to recognize sexual addiction as a real addiction but it sounds pretty real to us. Just ask Téa Leoni.
I think your husband needs to find some new extracurricular activities to keep his hands busy. Like dishes. Laundry. Mopping the floor. Spanking the monkey. That sort of thing. If he is in desperate need of being satisfied, he should handle some of that responsibility.
Your body does not belong to him. Yes, sex is an important part of any marriage. But his incessant sexual demands do not make for a healthy relationship. The two of you need to get to a couple’s therapist as soon as possible. This situation is not going to resolve itself.
I’m worried that you describe him as getting angry when you say no. If you feel like he might get violent with you, then you should perhaps seek help from a counselor on your own before addressing this with him.
You deserve to be in a relationship where you are respected, not sexually mauled at every opportunity. Good luck to you.