02 Feb
Staying Home is No Fun. But Working Sounds Worse.

Dear Mouthy Housewives,

I’m a SAHM and my kids are both in school. I used to keep busy with PTA and other activities with my other mom friends, but now most of them are going back to work because of the economy. I don’t want to get a job, but I’m starting to feel really lonely with everybody gone all day. What do you suggest?

Signed,

Bored SAHM

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Dear Bored SAHM –

I would refrain from complaining to your friends who’ve had to go back to work about how bored you are these days… sitting around watching The View, leisurely sipping lattes, updating your Facebook profile and reading your favorite blogs and magazines.

It might irritate them a little.

Maybe a lot.

To the point where they start a rumor that you are sleeping with a local high school senior. And not a hot one.

Many moms suddenly find themselves with a bit too much time on their hands. Different women deal with it in different ways. You could become an exercise addict and commit to do a few triathlons this year. But really what an exhausting addiction.

How about a shopping addiction instead! Before you know it, you’ll be so overwhelmed by bills, you’ll have to go back to work like your friends. Goodbye loneliness! If ruining your credit rating for a lifetime doesn’t appeal to you, it’s time to dedicated yourself to others.

Find some volunteer work that really appeals to you… building houses, working with animals, putting in hours at a local homeless shelter, teaching kids to read, etc. The minute we stop focusing on ourselves, we suddenly start to feel a whole lot better about ourselves.

And I don’t mean to go all What Color is Your Parachute on you but what are your passions? Because it’s a real blessing to have the time to figure out what makes your heart sing. Make a list of your top ten favorite things to do. I bet you haven’t done some of them in a long time. And it’s okay to put “Listen to the entire Rick Springfield music collection.”   Now you’ve got your “To Do” list. Go forth and carpe diem!

Signed,

Kelcey, TMH

13 Responses to “Staying Home is No Fun. But Working Sounds Worse.”

02.02.11#1

Comment by New York Mom|The Mama Bird Diaries - humor parenting.

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02.02.11#2

Comment by Yuliya.

Solution is obvious.
Have another baby!
You’re welcome.

02.02.11#3

Comment by Desperate Dietwives.

How about looking for a part-time job?

02.02.11#4

Comment by annie.

My friends deserted me too – I started a blog so I could annoy the rest of the world.

02.02.11#5

Comment by Rojopaul.

Get the scrapbooks up to date, finish sewing hubby’s raggy quilt (which was only a third done by Christmas), help out more in the classroom. Oh, I dream of not having to go to work and just being able to catch up on what I really want to do! I say enjoy that you don’t HAVE to work and find something to do that you really love.

02.02.11#6

Comment by @suburbanhaiku on twitter.

You won’t have free time.
When the PTA finds out,
you’ll be president.

melanie Reply:

HA HAAAAAAAAAAA Precisely! keep having babies, like Yuliya says…

marathonmom Reply:

lol

02.02.11#7

Comment by StephanieG.

Better yet, find a working mom and help her with her chores. I would KILL for a SAHM wife of my own. After 9 hours at the office, I come home to all the chores that were there when I left for work. {wink, wink}.

The grass is always greener. Your SAHM gig might not always make you happy. Well, my paying job doesn’t always make me happy. I’m bored sometimes, and there are times I feel very alone, even when surrounded by coworkers. But I suck it up and go in day after day, and eventually something comes along that makes me happy again. The same will happen for you.

You are in the enviable position of not having to work, so make the the most of it, whether that means finding a new book club, inventing clever ways to hide from the PTA president, or as others have suggested, procreation.

If all of that fails, find a part time job so you don’t go stark raving mad hanging out at home by yourself.

In the meantime, if you’d like to be my SAHM, Facebook me.

02.03.11#8

Comment by Renee.

This is a joke, right? You’re complaining b/c you don’t have to work???????? You can always go get a job, you know…

Renee Reply:

And, also, how can one be a stay at home mom if you are not actually mothering anybody while at home???

thepsychobabble Reply:

Not everyone digs the SAH gig. I tried it, and nearly went mad. I would work even if I didn’t “have to”

03.25.11#9

Comment by anothernickel.

From standpoint of a single mother working two jobs to barely make ends meet, congratulations on a great problem to have!

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