09 Jun
Soccer Mom or Stalker Mom?

Dear Mouthy Goddesses,

I made the grave error of being slightly too friendly to a fellow mom at my son’s preschool. I have since discovered that this woman is a certifiable nut case. She sends me 3 rambling e-mails a day. They are CRAZY. I don’t respond, but they keep coming. She knows about my blog so I can’t write about her there. Help!!


Jill (Scary Mommy)


Dear Jill,

Well, my dear, it sounds as if you’ve found yourself a Stalker Mom. A woman who, after you show her a hint of friendliness, will immediately glom on to you like you’re a big, thick steak and she’s a starving junkyard dog in need of a good meal. Before you know it, she’s e-mailing, she’s texting, she’s standing in the middle of your living room waving around a kitchen knife and hissing, “Take me shoe shopping or I’ll boil your daughter’s rabbit! MWHAHHHAHA!” (Well, that last part may only be pertinent if your Stalker Mom is Glenn Close in 1987.)

But, take heart, fair Stalkee, because one-way friendships are a fairly common occurrence for most women. For instance, a few years ago, I made the mistake of chatting up another mother at a Gymboree class, only to find out later that she was well known for sitting in her minivan and eating crayons. After months of e-mails, phone calls and requests to come to “Nudie Booty Hot Tub Night” at her house, I finally just had to be honest and tell her I was moving to Afghanistan. I haven’t heard from her since.

However, because your new WTF? BFF is most likely very needy and/or very lonely, it’s important that you let her down gently. The best way to do this is to simply tell her that you’re super busy with your family and that, sadly, you don’t have any time for friends right now. Then just designate her e-mails as “spam” and for the love of God, stop reading them. Most likely, she’ll quickly take the hint and move on to the next unsuspecting sucker who stands beside her at a preschool event. Trust me, it won’t be long before you’re rid of her for good.

But you still might want to lock up the rabbit.


Wendi, TMH

4 Responses to “Soccer Mom or Stalker Mom?”


Comment by Marinka.

I like to avoid these scenarios by being hostile to everyone from the get-go.


Comment by Andrea's Sweet Life.

SHIT, I think I might be a stalker mom


Comment by christy.

Jill – you can also block her email address full stop so it never hits your account again, then do what they suggested and just tell her you don’t have time for friends. Hello – three kids – you don’t! NOT that one anyone. 🙂


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