Dear Mouthy Housewives,
My new friend is selling one of those jewelry lines. Stella and Bella or whatever. The jewelry is not exactly my taste, but I feel bad not buying anything. She hasn’t pressured me at all, however I don’t want this to jeopardize a new friendship. Should I just buy something?
Keep Your Crown Jewels Away From Me
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Dear Mouthy Housewives,
We live in a neighborhood where everyone decorates the outside of their house for Christmas. We never do because we go out of town and aren’t that into spending money on something that doesn’t matter to us. However, recently a couple of neighbors have passive-aggressively made comments about how bad it looks to have our house dark on a festive street. Should I cave in and hang up some lights (which I can’t afford to give either time or money to) or just ignore them? I don’t want to cause trouble.
Am I Gretchen the Grinch?
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You know how much we love giving advice. But we Mouthy Housewives have to take a little hiatus. With all this heat our hair has gone haywire and we are beginning to look like the Richard Simmons quintuplets and that’s just not an appropriate look for the important task of helping you solve your problems.
Plus, the hot weather is just frying our brains, despite the fact that Marinka worked out a deal for Chris Brown to fan us and feed us ice cold grapes 24/7 as part of his community service requirements. Man, why can’t Ryan Gosling ever be on probation?!
Please enjoy your summer! We will probably spend most of it flying to and from London to help look after the royal bambino. Those first-time moms need a lot of guidance. We will miss you terribly, and as a coping mechanism, we will most likely have to partake in lemon drop shots and dirty dancing with Prince Harry. But we’ll still be over at BlogHer Moms with our weekly dose of wisdom, so visit us there!
Goodbye for now,
The Mouthy Housewives
Dear Mouthy Housewives,
My best friend’s husband texted me the other day out of nowhere (I don’t even know how he got my number!). At first I didn’t think anything of it, but then he started getting flirtatious. I did not flirt back and made sure I mentioned my fiancé more than once so the conversation could steer in a different direction (I mentioned wedding planning, house hunting, and his name).
I didn’t want to over-think it, but then he asked me if I minded that he was flirting with me and asked me to not tell his wife about the conversation. I of course told him that I rather he didn’t flirt because his wife is a good friend of mine and I don’t think she would appreciate it. I told my fiancé about the conversation and showed him the texts because I don’t want to hide anything from him. He was obviously pretty upset and doesn’t want me going over to my friend’s house anymore (especially when her husband is there); I also don’t feel comfortable going over there now either.
The dilemma I’m facing is whether I should break this news to my friend. They’re married and have a 1 year old baby. I don’t want to start drama especially when there is a marriage and family involved but I feel like I would want to know if my fiancé/husband was doing this to me. If her husband is texting me, then what else is he doing with other women that his wife isn’t friends with?? If I don’t tell and she finds out later on I feel like it might make matters worse but if I do tell her, then I think she will still be mad at me regardless. I feel like it’s a lose / lose situation and our friendship will not be same after this. What should I do?
Don’t Shoot The Messenger
You are between a rock and a hard place, my friend. There’s a wide spectrum of flirtation, so it’s a little hard to advise you not knowing if your friend’s husband wrote that you looked hot at the block party last weekend, or if he sent you a pic of his privates. HOWEVER, the fact that he specifically asked you not to tell his wife about the texts is super creepy. Bottom line is, you are not going to feel okay about any of this unless you tell her. I feel for you, I really do.
This situation sucks. Did you save the texts? It would help if you could actually show them to her. You can’t expect that she will immediately decide her husband (and father to her child) is a horrible person who she must leave immediately. Still, she’s probably going to feel threatened and defensive, and you need to let her know that you don’t hold her responsible for her husband’s actions, and that you hope it was just a misstep on his part and that you can all get past it.
I’m not sure his flirtatious texts to you are an indication that he’s doing this (or anything else) with other women, but it is a sign of extremely risky behavior on his part. No matter what, it made you uncomfortable, you didn’t reciprocate, and you did nothing wrong. Don’t let either of them try and turn this back on you (I’d bet good money that at least one of them will do exactly that).
Hopefully, this will just be a brief bump in the road for your friendship.
Dear Mouthy Housewives,
How do I become more manly? Or at least manly enough for women to stay interested in me? I am, by nature, an extremely shy person. I have also been mugged a couple of times. I am a child of a single mom who did everything better than I did, including anything physical and I am bad with my hands. I stopped playing sports years ago, in high school (I was a persistent benchwarmer), so that isn’t a selling point, either.
How do I attract women?
Not the Alpha Male
Dear Not the Alpha Male,
Oh, dear. This is a tough one. Personally, I like to think that there are a handful of distinct life experiences that fall into the old if-it-does-not-kill-you-it-will-at-least-put-hair-on-your-chest category. Obviously, I avoid them like the plague, as my chest has recently undergone laser hair removal, but that’s neither here nor there. I’d suggest any of the following, or perhaps even a combination of two or three:
1. Juggling chainsaws.
2. Signing up for that new Discovery show, Naked & Afraid.
3. Cuddling with grizzlies in Alaska. (Or, anywhere, for that matter.)
4. Swimming with sharks (that are equipped with LASER BEAMS.)
5. Befriend that Most Interesting Man in the World fella…and steal his identity.
6. Hot coals.
7. Puma essence.
8. Marlboro Reds.
9. Scorpion-infused tequila.
I KNOW, I KNOW. I realize that I sound like my mother, but the truth is that I am fully convinced that any ailment from which you may possibly suffer can be cured with either a few glasses of water or a good therapist. What I’m wondering with you, kind man, is whether you feel that you are somehow stifled and intimidated by the world around you, or if you are simply feeling unaccepting and unaccepted for who you truly are. In either of these situations, a great therapist can help you work through whatever is holding you back. You don’t need to be anything other than yourself to be deserving of love and affection, but you do need to love yourself in order for others to do the same.